THE FUTURE OF SEX IS TO REDEFINE SEX
To redefine the notion of sex, we must not simply be sex-positive, but to first and foremost be sex-critical.
As many other body politics related issues dealt with in current time, norms and sexual privileges have the power to define ideals of how we ‘should’ have sex and how our bodies ‘ought’ to work. Traditional sex-ed, media and our surroundings all have played a part in withholding these simplistic messages about sex, often offering a one-size-fits-all model of experience. Let's even have a look at our self-proclaimed 'sex-positive' culture while we're at it; it seems even harder to say that you don’t want to have sex – whether that being right now, or at all. And I genuinely don't believe we can achieve sexual liberation by simply replacing an oppressive set of rules with its opposites.
I believe to move beyond this we need to unlearn what we’ve learnt. On that note, as much as I want to believe that can be true, I will be the first to assure myself that this utopian thinking is not really possible! Instead we should be aware of these messages and how they affect us and the people around us. We all have different bodies and experiences, so there can be no universal definition that’d work for everyone.
Our most prominent strategy from here is: awareness, as well as reflecting critically upon the limited ideas of what counts as sex that we are constrained by. This will be our tool for moving into new territories of redefining sex and self-exploration, in all it's complexities, on our own terms.